Friday, June 5, 2020

The Lady Who Stole My Heart & Soul Part-IV

 Part-IV
After the demise of her father-in-law she took part in every ritual like Antim Ardas, Samapati of path of Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji and immersion of ashes at Kiratpur in Punjab. Though she also participatd in bhog ceremony and ashes immersion ceremony of her father but she could not attend these ceremonies of her mother-in-law as she had to look after her old and ailing father-in-law. It is not that after her father’s death there had been no death in her family as she faced death of her tow sister-in-laws, a cousin and her uncle after regular intervals. First of all her sister-in-law whose husband had retired from Punjab Police passed away suddenly, then wife of her own elder brother died unexpectedly and after a few months her cousin, who was a driver died in an accident . He was son of S. Baldev Singh who retired from Indian Air Force and he was driver of school and college buses.
After the situation normalized she planned to attend the annual convention of SPIC-MACAY along with her husband. The got their on line reservations and before oarding a train to Guwahati from Kota they went to Kota a day earlier and stayed for the night at the house of Nidhi who was at Kota then. After a long journey of 48 hours after passing through the states of Rajasthan, Uttar Pradesh, Bihar, West Bengal they reached Assam in the morning. It was for the first time that they saw River Ganga at Benarares though everything like Kanpur, Lucknow passed during the night. At Guwahati railway station volunteers of SPIC-MACAY came to receive us and at the station and took us in the buses to lush green campus of IIT Guwahati where former President of India and missileman Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam spent the last moments of his life. After the registration male and female participants were put in separate hostels. As it was an international convention so delegations from nieghbouring countries like Bhutan, Sri Lanka, Pakistan and Iran had also come. She was put up with female participants of Chittorgarh and other female participants in another hostel while her spouse and other male participants from Chittorgarh were put up in a different hostel. Perhaps this was her first international exposure so she was very much delighted with delegation from Bhutan and Pakistan with whom she could easily communicate in Urdu and Punjabi. She even got her self clicked with Bhutanese delegation   Routine at the convention started at 4.30 a.m in the morning with morning activities like yoga. She opted for dance yoga whie her spouse opted for Nad Yoga(Music). After the morning exercise and after wash and breakfast there were hobby classes till lunch. Here also she opted for Kathak Workshop while her spouse opted for workshop on Creative Writing. After lunch there used to be concerts or film shows that lasted till 11 o’clock in the night. In this convention besides seeing the famous Japanese film Kaghamoshai. There were music concerts by stalwarts of Indian dance and classical music like Pt. Hariprasad Chorasia, Smt. Girija Devi and dances- both classical as well as folk projecting rich cultural heritage of the far east. Even Sikh Granthis also gave a programme of Kirtan and a talk on the significance of literature was given by a notable Marathi writer Mr. Bhalchandra Nemade. So during this convention theyslept separately during the night but they were together atleast during the concerts that started from 3 p.m in the auditorium of IIT.
On the last days of convention Chittorgarh delegation hired a TATA Sumo SUV and went to visit area around Shillong the capita of neighbouring state Meghalaya. Starting from Guwahati inearly morning they passed through Shillong to see a waterfall and mesmerizing natural view point. Her she and her spouse got themselves photographed in the tribal attire of Meghalya. Then they went to see the village Mosemow which records the highest rainfall in the world. Here they enjoyed a cave walk in the cave of sandstone. Though there was water in the cave yet the sandstone rocks were not slippery. This was her perhaps life time experience. In the afternoon clouds gathered in the sky so they could not see across the border to Bangladesh which was on the other side of the river. By evening they reached Shillong and succeeded in getting accommodation in a hotel at Centre Point Shillong though they did not realize it during the night as they slept after taking their meals. In the morning they got up early and went for a morning walk on the empty roads of the town. Here they realized that they were quite near a famous church of the town and the building of Meghalaya’s Legislative Assembly. After the breakfast they went to see the airbase situated on a raised ground from where the whole town of Shillong was visible. By evening they returned back to Guwahati after seeing a large lake with several shapes of land mass. On the last day of the convention they went to see the local sight seeing points around Guwahati like Hajo, Temple of Goddess Kamakahya Devi and a bamboo temple. Here one of the student of her father-in-law Mr. Ranjeet Hazarika, who lived in Guwahati, came to meet them at the campus of IIT and invited them to his house for a luch. So before boarding the train we went to his house and had a new experience of crossing the mighty Brahmputra river by a steamer that took a number of two wheelers, cattle and other goods along with passengers to other bank. From here they took an auto and reached their hosts house where they had a delicious lunch of Bhaji and Luchis (Puris) at their house. From there they went directly to railway station to board the train to Patna as they had already decided that on the way back they will stay for a couple of days at Patna and then theywould proceed to Punjab so they left their delegation from Chittorgarh after the convention was over.
After an overnight journey they reached Patna in the morning and succeeded in getting accommodation near the main Gurudwara. This place was associated with first, ninth and the tenth guru of the Sikhs. While Guru Nanak Dev and Guru Tegh Bahadaur visited this place and stayed her during their visit to the North-East part of the country, the tenth and the last Guru Gobind Singh was born here. We spent evening in the main Gurudwara and the adjoining Gurudwaras like Kangan Ghat that is situated on the banks of River Ganga. Next day they booked seats in a bus run by Gurudwara Management and went around the town of Patna to see other Gurudwaras like Gau Ghat and Bal Lila Gurudwara. Next day they boarded a train goiong to Jammu Tawi and after another overnight journey they reached Ludhiana in the morning.
Now some things had become a regular feature of their lives like annual visit to Punjab to her village Sujapur and her husband’s ancestral village Dharamkot. During these visits they used to congratulate their relatives and friends for happy occasion like wedding and birth of a child and condole those relatives who had lost some member of their family. Sometimes they also attended the wedding ceremonies of children and grand children of their relatives. In this context one wedding of her spouse’s granddaughter that they attended at Dharamkot in the last week of December is worth mentioning. During this occasion also she had met a number of people related to her spouse for the first time in her life. At Chittorgarh morning and evening walks to college ground had become a regular feature of their life till lockdown came due to Corona infections.
Another major event that took place was wedding of her spouse’s youngerniece who was a dentist and her wedding had been fixed with another dentist Dr. Hartej Nerwal  belonging to Mohali,Chandigarh,Punjab. Dr. Hartej’s father also belonged to medical profession as he was a practicing homeopath who had retired from Medical and health Department, Government of Punjab. Though girl belonged to Jaipur but unlike her elder sister her wedding was to be held at Chandigarh keeping in mind the convenience of groom’s family. She also went to attend the wedding along with her husband and younger son Shivpal and reached Chandigarh by a train from Jaipur. Earlier they had started from Chittorgarh for Jaipur also by train. After an overnight journey they reached Chandigarh. Logisitics and staying arrangements had been planned by bride’s elder sister. A cab picked them up from the railwaystationof Chandigarh and took them to the hotel. After resting for some time and breakfast they assembled at the house of bride’s father’s aunt’s house who lived in Chandigarh and shoes house was just a couple of kilometres away  from the residence of the groom. From there we went to groom’s house for engagement ceremony and then they came to bride’s father’s aunt’s house for ring ceremony. In the evening there was program of music and dance known as Ladies Sangeet from bride’s side at the hotel. As the song and dance was in progress suddenly we saw that three or four boys and a lady entered the hotel came into the room and headed straight for the dancing floor and started dancing to the music. Actually groom came to know about this program being held at the hotel and they decided to break into it to give a pleasant surprise.
            Next day was the day of  wedding and she was entrusted with the responsibility of accompanying the bride as she went to deck at beauty parlour. After the breakfast Groom came on horse carriage along with music band. After welcome of Barat and tea and snacks people proceeded towards local Gurudwara for the wedding ceremony or Anand Karaj. Though she could not enjoy the day of wedding much as she had important role of accompanying bride everwhere till the marriage ended. But she enjoyed complimentary breakfast of the hotel where they were staying like Eggs, Juice and German Sausages. Next day they attended reception at another wedding palace that had grand decoration. Next day they came to Delhi  by bus and then to Hazrat Nizamuddin Station from where they got train to come back to Chittorgarh.
Next major development was that her husband bought a new Maruti Suzuki car of Dzire Model in the month of Novemeber though they retained the old Maruti Zen also. After her younger son Shivpal joined at FTTI for another PG Course in Sound Designing an dSoound Recording most of the time they were alone at Chittorgarh. Now she started herself adapting herself to the interests of her spouse so as to remain in his company as long as she can. She started accompanying him on the morning and  evening walks, she had joined and shown interest in SPIC-MACAY activities and even literary activities as she also attended not only International Convention of SPIC-MACAY at Guwahati but she also attended Annual Seminar of  Rajasthan Association of  Studies in English at Central University of Rajasthan Kishangarh Dist. Ajmer Besides visiting Punjab bi annually they continued the tradition of celebrating birthday in the month of June and it was a mere coincidence that her spouse’s and his sister’s birthday was on the same day though there was a difference of five years between them. Her birthday and her sister-in-law’s husband’s birthday also fell in the month of June.
In the year 2017 whenthe colleges closed for Summer vacation they decided to vist Kullu, Manali and Manikaran when they went to visit Punjab this year. First of all they to Chandigarh and stayed for a night with Dr. Divi and Dr. Hartej Nerwal. Next day with their help they hired a Toyota Innova Cab and started for Manikaran from Chandigarh in the early morning. They passed before Mansa Devi Temple and then through the town of Mandi and Kullu and reached Manikaran, which is famous for hot water springs. They got accommodation easily at the Gurudwara and after seeing the surroundings in the evening and participating in the ceremonies of the Gurudwara they slept at night. This place had natural hot water springs in which even pulses and rice was cooked and served to the people in the free kitchen or langar. Next day they  saw a number of places in the town of Manikarna that was named after the ear ring of Goddess Parvati  that fell into the river on whose banks this town is situated.. We also came to know about the place where Lord Shiva’s engagement ceremony was held. After lunch we moved towards Manali via Kullu and on the way we did some shopping on the way by buying some shawls. Just a few kilometers before Manali there is a village that is inhabited mostly by foreign tourists. As Dr. Hartej had already made our booking at the hotel so we had no difficulty in locating and checking in the hotel. First of all we went to see the temple of Goddess Hidamba the demon girl who married Bhima and whose son Ghatotkach became the prime reason of Pandava’s victory in the Mahabharat though he embraced martyrdom. Then we went to see Vashistha Ashram where we saw Vashista temple and Rama Temple that was being built of wooden structures and architecture. It was situated on the other side of the river that runs through the town. After it we came to Mall Road market that was crowded but after buying some souvenirs we returned back to hotel and after dinner went to bed and in the morning we started back for Chandigarh after a hurried breakfast. On the way back we saw the ground where the Annual Dusshera Fair is held at Kullu. While coming back we saw the historical Gurudwara at Mandi where the weapons of Guru Gobind Singh, including a musket was exhibited.. By the time the darkness of the evening covered the sky we reached Chandigarh safe an dsound.
In the year 2019 her elder son came back from France to join Zindal University at Sonepat as Senior Research Associate. Before going to their annual visit to Punjab she along with her husband visited Ishupal at Sonepat and stayed at his accommodation for a couple of days. Then they went to Punjab for a week and during this they only visited one place that is Gurudwara Damdama Sahib at Talwandi Sabo where Guru Gobind Singh ji rested for a few days. This place enjoys the status of a Takht in Sikh religion.    
After the return from Punjab her elder son Ishupal and her younger brother’s son Gurpreet, who works in a firm as Compute Engineer in Jaipur decided to give her a treat by celebrating her birthday at a historical tourist site Kumbhalgarh that is associated with Maharana Kumbha and Maharana Pratap. Gurpreet already reached Chittorgarh and we picked up Ishupal from Udaipur airport as he came from Delhi by air  then we proceeded to this place. Though it was only middle of June but pre monsoon showers had made the weather pleasant and a thrown a cover of greenery on the surrounding mountains. They had already made the bookings at Ramada- a group of hotels managed by a firm from America. There we stayed for two nights in a grand luxury and during the day we went to see the famous fort and its imposing wall around the fort that can be considered as next to China Wall. After spending the day there we came back to hotel and in the evening we celebrated her birthday in a grand and royal manner when the waiters of the hotel brought in the cake and crackers marking the celebration of the birthday .In the morning we came back to Chittorgarh.
Though life of everybody is uncertain and nobody knows when one’s life is going to end but the air of uncertainty had become more intense after the COVID infection by Coronavirus in the month of March 2020. Then she had a small lump in her throat that war earlier of a size of a grain but it may increase in size with time. Though one of the famous ENT specialist of Jaipur had given the report that this lump contains cancerous cells but doctor had assured her that it was still benign and 90% of these formations in throat remain benign and do not get malignant. The only remedy in alleopathy is surgery but that may aggravate the problem instead of resolving it. Then some of the issues of her life are still unresolved and that is the marriage of her sons and till date none of them is in mood of getting married. She becomes a working woman atleast for three months in an year when she goes for invigilation duties in the university exams in the college. She has mixed up with the college staff so much that she nearly has become a part of the college. Thus making use of work experience and qualification she has tried to make her life active and useful by serving the humanity in one way or other.


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The Lady who Stole My heart & Soul Part-III

Part-III
Though the place to which she was coming was not entirely unknown to her as she had visited this town as a student of the college who had come on a picnic tour of Chittorgarh which was a place of historical significance with a stately and strong fort. But as a married person she was entering this town for the first time. As the car stopped before a house in Housing Board Colony of Pratap Nagar she observe that the house to which she had come was much smaller and humbler as it was the house of a simple retired teacher of a school while her house was spacious and grand by all means as her father was an engineer in the Irrigation Department of Government of Rajasthan. But seeing their small familythis accommodation of three rooms, two halls, a kitchen and two wash rooms appeared to be quite sufficient. As she came out of car first of all she was welcomed by her mother-in-law at the entrance of the house and then she was taken to a small room situated on the first floor of the house which was their worship room. As her father-in-law had holy Guru Granth Sahib ji in that room so the first thing that she did in that house was to pay her respect to the Guru Granth Sahib ji followed by tea and snacks. Then she started getting ready for the evening reception ceremony that was to be celebrated at the entrance of their house in a large tent put up by a famous tent house of the town. Her class fellow, or rather their common class fellow as she had studied with groom up to graduation level and them with her in post graduation classes, who lived in the same colony came to help her in getting ready for the reception ceremony. In the tent there was a raised platform on which two ceremonial chairs were placed for the bride and groom to sit and in front of then chairs for the guests were placed and on the fringe of the tent tables were place where food for the guests was served.
            In the evening guests started arriving and sitting on chairs placed for them . After some time Bride in Cherry red saree and groom in black suit with a bow tie entered the tent and occupied their high back ceremonial chairs on the platform. After that dinner started. In those day there was no such thing as caterers. Cook as he was called halwai with his accomplices cooked the food and that was served by the family friends and relatives to the guests. After the dinner every guest came to meet bride and groom and photographed by a photographer by standing behind the chairs of bride and groom. Due to this busy schedule of the whole day they very much tired. That night the couple could hardly sleep as somebody knocked at the door of their room early in the morning who turned out to be groom’s mother who was quite apologetic as she did not want to disturb them but the issue was that snacks were in that room and groom’s sister’s in-laws were leaving for their place early in the morning so that by night they could reach their place as the distance was nearly 500 kms.
            Next day they went again to Bhilwara and returned back in the evening. Her husband had to leave for his work place as he had limited number of leave as the wedding was held in the mid-session. In his absence she used to go for morning and evening walks with her Father-in-law and Mother-in-law. In the evening she used to give company to her mother-in-law in watching several soaps on Television and movies as he father-in-law was not interested in watching movies or TV serials or soaps as they were called. Just after a week of their wedding her husband lost the job as his name did not appear in the list of appointments. Though he left his work place Karauli but stayed at Jaipur only to await the next list to appointments to come. After a week another list came and he was posted to the same place and so he decided to join his job. As he went to join the job he got a letter from SSB that he had been called for interview at Bhopal in response of his application to the post of Commissioned Officer in Army Education Corps. So taking leave he came to Gangapur city by bus and then by train came to Kota and from Kota he got another train that took him to Bhopal after an overnight journey. Though he attended the interview but could not succeed in it and in the process his hands were badly injured while doing Rope climbing exercise in Obstacle Course. Army bus left them at Bhopal bus stand from where another person accompanied him who belonged to Udaipur. So together they got a bus from Bhopal to Indore. By evening they reached Indore and from Railway Station they got Meenakshi Express train coming from Secunderabad and bound for Jaipur. Though the general coach was crowded and they could barely get space for standing at Indore but after a couple of hours they got seats and after the overnight journey they reached Chittorgarh in the morning. Here her husband parted from his fellow aspirant of AEC officer interview at Bhopal who got another train from Chittorgarh.
            When he reached the home in the morning it was a pleasant surprise for everybody as they were not expecting them so soon. After spending a couple of days her husband again left for his work place. Though this time he wanted to take her also along with him but she wanted to serve her parents in law for some more time so she turned down his offer politely. On the day he was to leave for his work place an interesting incident took place. He was to leave for his work place in the night bus that started from Chittorgarh at 9 p.m but in the afternoon her nephews and niece barged in their house along with her. They took her away after evening tea as she was needed in Bhilwara as her brother’s wife had a miscarriage. So she went away with her father leaving her husband in very morose mood because he had never expected that he would have to see her off before his bus. So he left alone for the bus stand in a very grim mood and boarded the bus though his father had come all the way to bus stand to see him off. As the bus started the journey he fell asleep due to hectic schedule during the day that had tired him. Bus in one hour after covering the distance of 50 kms reached Bhilwara and when the bus stopped he was dreaming about her. As he was in a dizzy state when the bus stopped he had a pleasant surprise when he saw her coming along with his brother to meet me at the bus stand and that her image was not a dream but a reality.
            After the colleges closed for winter vacations and her husband came back it was decided that she would accompany her husband when the vacation will end and her parents-in-law will accompany them and hell them in settling as it was wish of his parents to set up the house of their son after his wedding. Vacation ended after one week and all of them came to Jaipur by making overnight journey by bus and then getting another bus from Jaipur. At Karauli they found out that there was only one room and one kitchen hired by their son as a result of which their son and his wife slept in the kitchen while they left the remaining one room to the elderly couple. Her father-in-law went tohe market of the town to buy various things like candles, match box, rope to hang clothes on and pegs to hand other things in the room So after spending a week at Karauli his parents decided to return to Chittorgarh.
            At Karauli they used to go on long morning walks during morning and evening as there was no conveyance in the town so everywhere you had to go on foot. It was an ancient town divided by a dried up stream that became active during the heavy down pour. Though the old town was surrounded by a circular moat surrounding it having certain gates like Hindaun Gate, Wazirpur Gate, Mandrayal Gate , etc and there were windows also through which people could go out side the walled town easily. On the western side of the stream new town was coming up as Government College and most of the offices were coming up on the western side of the stream among the boulders and ravines formed by the stream. Here they lived in one room, one kitchen apartment that was situated in front of palatial Dak Bungalow of  PWD that had sprawling lush green lawns along with Tennis and Squash Court. As Karauli was a state ruled by a Maharaja till 1950 when it decided to accede to the state of Rajasthan so this palatial Dak Bungalow was constructed as a Guest House for the British Agent to stay whenever he used to visit this place. As her husband was interested in playing Tennis so most of their evening and mornings were spent in the garden encircling the Dak Bungalow that contained a cemented Tennis Court and an enclosed Squash Court where spectators sat on the roof while the players played below in the open cemented compound. Maharaja of Karauli had formed Ganesh Sports Club for the entertainment of the British Agent who used amuse himself by playing Tennis and Squash with Maharaja and his friends.
            Her husband who had learnt playing Tennis during his school days at Sainik School Chittorgarh used to play Tennis here with an Additional district Judge, a doctor, PTI of the college and his another colleague  Mr Rishibhan Chaturvedi. Sometimes she also accompanied him to the court even in the morning. Sometimes they went for a walk even in the wilderness in the ravines and valleys formed by the dry stream running through the town. During the annual games in the college she came to college too with the daughters of their neighbours who was a science student in the college but by the time she reached college her husband came back to the house. He also used to give tuitions to a girl who was pursuing post graduation in English Literature. Whenever he was not at home she used to give company to this girl.
            While at Karauli they visited a number of religious places around the town like Kaila Devi which was 23 kms away from the town and Mahaveerji which was near Hindaun nearly 40kms from Karauli. They also saw the local temple of Madanmohanji  which was quite grand in appearance. As the place where her spouse’s sister’s in laws lived was also not much far from this place. So they used to go on Saturdays to Bharatpur and by taking one day’s leave they used to visit the places of historical and religious significance. Once they went to see the historical Buland Darwaja and shrine of Sheikh Salim Chisti at Fatehpur Sikri. Next day they also went to see Red Fort and Taj Mahal at Agra. Once they went to see places around Bharatpur like world famous Ghana Bird Sanctuary, Ganga mandir,Lakshaman Mandir and Lohgarh- the Bharatpur fort. Once they went along with her husband’s brother-in-law’s sister and her family to see various temples around Mathura and Vrindavana. In this trip she came to know that her husband was highly allergic to horse because they had hired for four of them and as soon as they boarded the tonga he started developing symptoms of bronchial asthma and became so severely ill that ultimatlely he vomited. During their stay at Karauli one of her father’s old frind S. Jaspal Singh, who was working as an Agricultural Officer in Government of Rajasthan at Sawai Madhopur came to meet them and invited them to visit Sawai Madhopur. As the colleges closed for Summer Vacations they went to Sawai Madhopur to visit the family of Jaspal Singh ji. From Karauli they went to Gangapur city by bus and from Gangapur City they took a train that took them to Sawai Madhopur after a couple of hours journey. From railway station they went to Jaspal Singh’s house by tonga. Next morning they went to see Rantahmabore National Park that is well known for Tigers in an open jeep of Agricultural Department that had been arranged by Jaspal Singh ji. As she was meeting Jaspal Singh ji’s daughters after a long time so they also joined us in this forest safari. Here they saw a tigress eating the carcass of a cow at a distance. When she spotted our jeep she stopped eating and started snarling looking towards us. We quickly moved our jeep. The person who was driving the jeep was also a Sikh who had his relatives at Chittorgarh. Suddenly he stopped the jeep at once and we were thrust forward due to sudden brake and were thrilled by the sight of Tiger crossing the path two hundred metres away and after crossing the path it went and sat in the cool shade under a tree. This was the life time experience of being so close to wild life. Next day from Sawai Madhopur we came to Jaipur by train to stay with her sister-in-law and her family who used to live at that time in Barkat Nagar. At Jaipur we went to see Jaipur Zoo and Alber Hall Museum at Ramniwas Garden and to have Dosas and a cup of Coffee at its famous Kiran CafĂ©. Next day we boarded the train from Jaipur to reach Chittorgarh where were to spend the summer vacations for the next two months.
            At the end of the month of June when colleges were again to open after the summer vacations her spouse again lost his job. By this time she had got pregnant also and they used to go to Shastri Nagar area of the Chittorgarh town to visit one of the famous gynaecologist of the town for her regular check up. As there was only one scooter so her spouse used to do two rounds. In first round he used to take his parents to the doctor’s home as they also insisted on going and then in the second round he used to take her. Though her husband lost the job for some time but there was no financial crisis in the family as her father in law was still working and earning well as a part time teacher in a private school of the town besides taking tuitions at home in the morning and evenings. Then her husband also started working as a part time teacher in two organizations. One was part time teacher of English at newly opened Government Polytechnic in the town and at another private school. That way still he was earning nearly one thousand bucks per month. After a gap of nearly six months he got his job again and at the same place where he was working earlier. As the place was known to him so he quickly joined it in the month of December. After a fortnight colleges closed for a week for winter vacations and her husband came back on 24th December at Chittorgarh. On the morning of 25th December they got the news that she was experiencing labour pains and her parents had taken her to the hospital. It was the day of Christmas and as soon as they got the news her parents and her spouse set on the journey to Bhilwara by bus like three magis who had gone to bless the child at Bethlehem nearly 2000 years ago. At about 7 p.m in the evening of 25th December she gave birth to a healthy and normal male child. He was instantaneously named as Ishupal to observe the great day of Christmas when Jesus Christ who to Indians is known as Ishu. Some time later he was nicknamed as Tito after the great Yugoslavian leader Marshal Tito. After a few days she came back to her house at Bhilwara and her husband went back to his job after the end of vacations. And after a month she returned back to Chittorgarh. Her husband came to celebrate Holi at Chittorgarh and then he met her after a long time. Her husband again came back to Chittorgarh when colleges closed for Sumer Vacations. Now this young child was growing well and he had started crawling. Just a month before the birth of Ishu his father’s sister had given birth to another girl child at Bharatpur, Nidhi’s sister, who was named as Anshu or Divi. In the month of June as had become tradition of their house all of them had assembled at Chittorgarh. Her in laws daughter and her husband also came from Jaipur to celebrate their birthday. At that time she used to spread mattresses in the hall and put cooler in the afternoon. Ishu and Anshu used to play on the mattress. As Ishu had learnt to tumble so he used to go from one corner of the hall to another within no time. As her spouse’s job was temporary so she many times thought of augmenting their income by utilizing her qualification by doing some work but as child was small who needed her care and attention so she gave up the idea and then she saw the hurdles that her sister-in-law faced, who was a government teacher, bringing up two children. That year was the year when for the first time her husband was not relieved at the onset of summer vacations due to court’s intervention that had granted them stay on their being relieved from job. So he went back to work at the same place when colleges reopened after the summer vacations in the month of July. When the colleges closed for winter vacations that year he had decided to bring his wife and child to his work place. Now Ishupal had turned one year and so as to celebrate his birthday his grandfather arranged a grand function at their house It was a difficult phase of her life as she had to work nearly around the clock to look after the guests who had come for function, look after the child and pay special attention to the team of priests that had come to their house to perform religious ceremony of Akhand path.of Sri Guru Granth Sahib. She was determined to make this function a success as she considered this house as her own house from the day one of her entry into the house even at the cost of displeasing her husband. It was arranged at their house and its samapti was done in front of their house in a Pandal and in the evening a dinner party was arranged where the cake bearing the name of Ishupal was cut by the young child. Even her relatives from Punjab joined this function. At the end of the vacations she and child along came with him to Karauli but reaching there they came to know that he has been transferred to Bharatpur where his sister’s in laws lived. After getting a highly charged emotional farewell from the staff and people of Karauli they took the bus to Bharatpur and reached there in the evening and landed at the house of her sister-in-law. 
            After a few days of transit at this house we took a two room rented accommodation of my brother-in-law’s elder brother who was working as Engineer in the Irrigation Department of Government of Rajasthan, the department in which her father was also working and going to retire in the same year. Though this house was quite far from the college but as this family was a joint family so there was no shortage of peer fellows for young Ishupal. It was here that Ishupal learnt walking by practicing on the ramp in front of the main gate of the house. Ishupal attended a function along with his mother and at the function he wanted to eat a certain round sweet named Gulab jamun. But he did not know the name of this sweet but by its shape he could make out that it was like a ball. So he told his mother and landlady who had accompanied them to this function that he would like to eat one more ball. Ishupal liked being taken out of the house in the evenings. So we used to take him on Scooter to the market or some open place like Ganga Mandir or Lakshman Mandir where he could run and play freely. It was at this place that he tasted the first ice cream of his life and I think that was vanilla flavour of Vadilal Ice cream. Sometimes he also used to accompany his father who used to go to play Tennis with his colleagues at the college. Ishupal used to act as Ball Boy quite enthusiastically and willingly. Even some of his father’s colleagues were impressed by the alacrity of such a young child. They also went to see the world famous Ghana Bird Sanctuary at Bharatpur. Now Ishupal who was nearly 18 months old used to blabber a number of words and things and as he was quite energetic so he used to run in the compound of the house whole day. Ishupal was very much enchanted with the music of Television of the owner of the house who lived on the first floor of the house. As soon as this music started playing and it fell on his ear he used to climb the stairs as quickly as he could to get in front of Television screen that was placed in their bedroom. There was an iron gauge placed between the room and the stairs on which there was a swing hanging with the help of hooks on the ceiling. Once another child dropped spoon and some edible material through the gauge to the ground floor. Ishupal was observing it carefully and he climbed down the stairs uttering that things can drop through the gauge I will not drop down. Mean while Ishupal’s mother again got pregnant. At that time her parents-in-law had gone to Punjab to attend the wedding of their grandson( Ishupal’s grandfather’s elder brother’s grandson)  at Dharmakot. Though her parents insisted on staying at Bhilwara during the pregnancy but her spouse insisted on taking her to Bharatpur to the extent of stubbornness. So she accompanied her husband to Bharatpur and after a few days her mother and parents-in-law came too to facilitate the birth of the child. With the help of their land lady , who was a health worker in Ayurveda Department of Government of Rajasthan and mother in law of her sister in law who was an experienced veteran lady the birth of the younger son was facilitated. Just a fortnight before the birth of her younger son her husband was sent on deputation to a near by college Government College Hindaun which was roughly 100 kms from his present place of working. Though he used to come Bharatpur almost daily but per haps it was due to tension she did not give birth to the child till her spouse finally joined after completing the tenure of deputation.
It was evening when she felt labour pain, Ishupal had already gone outside along with his grandfather. She told her spouse and he took her to hospital on scooter. When they reached the hospital shift was about to change and nursing staff was in mood of going away to home after the shift is over, so they took her quickly to labour room. Meanwhile her mother and mother-in-law and her husband’s sister’s mother-in-law alsoreached the hospital and when Ishupal came back with his grandfather they were confused when they saw lock at the door of the house but when they got the news. They quickly went to hospital but by the time they reached the hospital Shivpal was already born. The first news of his birth was given by her husband’s sister’s mother –in-law. Soon her mother-in-law came in a very happy mood as she was overjoyed to see a young infant with dimples in his cheek. That night they spent in the hospital and came back to the house in the morning. As this child was born a day before Shivratri so he was instantaneously named as Shivpal and Citu as his nick name. Ishupal was confused for some time at seeing the child. As her maternal uncle’s younger son was born a few months ago at Bhilwara that Ishupal had seen so when he saw this child he believed that his maternal uncle’s son had come there.
The birth of Shivpal proved to be lucky for her and her husband as a few months after his birth her husband was transferred to his home town Chittorgarh, though for a brief span of six months but after that she did not have to leave Chittorgarh after that her spouse most of the time remained within the commuting distance of Chittorgarh. After that most of her life was spent at Chittorgarh except for a brief visit to Bhilwara where her parents lived and annual visit to her village in Punjab where her grandparents lived.
In the year 1992 her husband’s family decided to go on a pilgrimage and sight seeing tour of south India that included places like Nanded in Maharashtra that was associated with Guru Gobind Singh ji as he spent the last days of his life here and Bidar in Karnataka that was associated with Guru Nanak Dev ji who visited this place in 15th century and gave respite to people of this area who were struggling with salty water of the town by giving then a fountain of fresh water. As her maternal uncle lived in Hyderabad so they also included it in their itinerary. There was a direct train from Chittorgarh to Nanded named Meenakshi Express and as there was only quota of three berths in the train so her husband got reservation from Bhilwara quota where he was working at that time. Though he was transferred to this place withing six months of his arrival at Chittorgarh but as this place was only 55 kms away so he used to commute daily to this place.
As it was time of winter vacations but as they moving southwards where winters are not severe so most of them took only blankets but her mother-in-law insisted on taking quilt in her luggage. They boarded the train in the night together as her husband had given option of boarding train at Chittorgarh though his berth was reserved from Bhilwara. After boarding the train and showing tickets to Conductor they slept on their respective berths and both children sleeping with their mother and grandmother. After the journey of 36 hours they reached Nanded and from there we went to the main gurudwara and took accommodation in the inn known as Ranjeet Singh Hostel at Gurudwara Complex. After seeing the main gurudwara and attending evening ceremonies there in which the weapons used by Guru Gobind Singh were exhibited to the spell bound audience next day we went to visit banks of River Godavari. As it was quite a distance so while coming back from the River Godavari we thought of hiring the cycle rickshaw who were feeling tired. As the rickshaws of South India are quite low so as soon as the rickshaw stopped both Ishupal and Shivpal jumped into it. Their grandparents also asked rickshawwala to take them to the place where they were staying. That was the time when people were so sincere and trustworthy that he took them to the destination and even did not stop to get his fare but came next day to take his money. Her father-in-law was working at that time as a part time teacher in a private school. Principal of the school had a class fellow who belonged to Begun town of Chittorgarh and now was a great business man at Nanded. So he had taken a letter of introduction from his Principal so next day her husband, her two kids and his parents went to visit this man at his house over a cup of tea. Though he had gone to Pondicherry as he was disciple of Sri Aurobindo but his two sons, who were quite humble and courteous met them. They even insisted on them to stay at the guest room of their house. But her father-in-law insisted on staying at Gurudwara so as to participate in the ceremonies of the Gurudwara in the morning and evening. After visiting the historical Gurudwaras around Nanded like Shikar Ghat we went to Bidar by taking bus from Nanded which was a journey of four hours. The bus dropped us at the historical Gurudwara known as Nanak Jhira after the fountain of fresh water discovered by Guru Nanak Dev ji to give relief to the people of this town. After staying here for one day we took another bus from Nanded to Hyderabad and after a journey of another four hours we reached Hyderabad and from there we reached the house of her maternal uncle that was situated in Vanasthalipuram Housing Board by evening. Our hosts were very glad to see us as they had guests after quite a long time. Next day her maternal uncle whose name was Ranjeet Singh Mann and his son took us in his car for sight seeing to see the historical Salarjung Museum, which was so large that if a person visits every room of it then even couple of days would not be sufficient to see entire museum. We saw several rooms of the museums for about couple of hours like the room containing sculpture pieces, portraits, watches and the like. We also witnessed the central clock of the museum in which a man of steel came out of the watch to strike the hour. After the museum we went to see the famous Zoo of this town and while going to Zoo we had a passing view of famous iconic building of the town Char Minar. At zoo we rode a train that took us around the zoo showing all the significant animals of the zoo. From Zoo he took us for a long ride to Hussein Sagar that joined the twin towns of Hyderabad and Secunderabad. Here we also saw the statue of Lord Buddha in the centre of the lake. Next day Her souse went alone to the town and bought a gun metal replica of Char Minar that still graces the drawing room of our house. In the evening we boarded the same train by which we had come from Chittorgarh from Kaccheguda and after journey of 36 hours came back in the morning to Chittorgarh.
Now Ishupal was old enough to go to school and he was admitted to a nearby school named St. Pauls School. His grand mother was still fit to look after Ishupal after he returned from school so she decided to utilize her qualification to work as a part time worker in some organization so as to augment her family’s income as well. As she was computer professional so her attention turned towards Computer Institute of the town. She joined a firm founded by the son of her father-in-law’s colleague. But soon its owner closed it as he moved to Delhi as he got job in Apple Computers and then to Houston in USA. Then she joined another institute named Computer Corner but the problem with Computer Institutes of the town was that they were unable to pay well to the workers as the paying capacity of the client of the town was not much. Then the ownership of most of these institutes was in hand of some petty businessmen whose main motive was profit motive and they tried to take out maximum from a worker and wanted to give minimum possible remuneration to them. So after some time she left this institute too and then she joined APTECH, which was an institute of international repute like NIIT but these organizations had auctioned their franchises to petty business men in different towns. So they did not care about the payment to the teachers and workers their only concern was the revenue that they got from the fees of the students. But here she learnt a lot as well taught a number of engineers of the town who required to be trained in Information Technology to update their skills. Her husband also learnt computers for a month in which he leant some of the basics of the computer like MS Word, MS Excel and Powerpoint. So due to lack of stability and good remuneration compelled her to move towards teaching this subject in a school though she was not qualified to work as a teacher a she was not graduate in education faculty. However she still remembers some of her colleagues of Computer field like Shyam Suner, Sumit Dasgupta, Bhatti who helped her in giving contribution to this field.
Her coming to field of education was also an interesting coincidence. Her husband who was working as a faculty in a local college was called by the leading school of the town as a subject expert in English. Principal of this school was not only his teacher but he was also a colleague of her father-in-law who took up this job after retiring from Sainik School. He contacted her and offered her a job to teach Computer as a hobby subject up to Class X. Remuneration in teaching job was fairly well and which was much more than what she earned in the computer Institutes. Since this school was run by a Corporate body so they more or less followed government rules including salary of the staff. As the school was a senior secondary school affiliated to Central Board of Secondary Education so it was mandatory for the school to follow all regulations. So the salary of teacher in this school was almost equivalent to the salary of government of teacher the difference was only in DA or Dearness Allowance. So she started her job as an Ad hoc teach with the lump sum remuneration of Rs. 4500/- per month. Slowly with time she became a purely temporary teacher in the pay scale of Rs. 4500 and she also started getting increments and dearness allowance. Then with time she became a TGT with the basic pay of Rs. 5500/-. Meanwhile she enhanced her qualification by doing M.Phil in Economics through correspondence from Vinayaka Mission University, Salem Tamil Nadu whose study centre and exam centre was at Bhilwara where her parents still lived. The same year school decided to open Commerce Faculty at Senior Secondary level of Class XI and XII. School was in need of some person who could teach Economics in English medium to the students of the school. Principal gave this opportunity to her and she accepted in gratefully as a result of which she was promoted to PGT in the pay scale Rs. 6500/-. She was also made Head and Incharge of Computer Department of the school. As in those days there was a shortage of teachers who could teach subjects like History, Civics, Geography and Economics to English medium students of the school. So she got promotions easily and within a decade of her service and she celebrated this achievement by giving party to Principal and management of school at a local hotel. Perhaps this was the first party that she had given outside the house in which both her sons and parents-in law also participated. So she reached the optimum but by now the fellow who was her father-in-law’s colleague had left the job of Principal and went to Bikaner. With the coming of new Principal her troubles started cropping up. Earlier also she participated in all the activities of the school with enthusiasm and prepared children for debates and cultural shows and dramas. Besides she was given the job of typing paper of every subject on the computer. As in a private school there is unending circle of setting question papers, typing them, evaluating answer books and preparing results so she became patient of Sponadilitis and as she had to look after the children as well as ageing parents-in –law so she was always tired and sleep starved.
As her parents and relatives as well as relatives of her parents-in-law lived in Punjab so it had nearly become annual feature of life that they used to visit Punjab during the Summer Vacations in the month of May and June. During these visits they also used to go on sight seeing excursions. One such excursion to Haridwara, Rishikesh, Dehradun and Mussorie. In this journey they were joined by tenants and their family who lived in her father-in law’s house at Moga in Punjab. We hired a Tata Sumo SUV for the journey. And started from Moga in the morning and after crossing Ludhiana, Ambala, Yamuna Nagar and Saharanpur we reached Hardwara by evening. We stayed at Pawan Dham Dharamshala that was suggested to us by one of her relative who lived in the village nighbouring the village in which her husband was born in the same month, same year as she though not the same day. In the evening they visited the banks of holy river Ganga and witnessed its famous arti. In the morning next day first of all they took holy dip in the river Ganga at Har ki Pedi. Her mother-in-law was very happy that both her grandsons were helping her to take dip in the holy rivert. Then they went to see Mansa Devi temple which was on a hillock and tourists were taken there on the rope way. In the trolley she sat alone with her husband and the trolley started with a swing and nearly took them two hundred metres above the ground in no time. Perhaps this was the first time that she had gone off the ground in the air for such a height. After that they visited a number of temples and went to nearby town of Rishikesh where River Ganga is still at the of the Himalayas. Here they visited the famous rope bridge across the holy river known as Lakshaman Jhoola. There was another bridge also known as Ram Bridge.connecting the two shores of the town. After that we went to see Swarga Ashram where there were accommodation and cooking facilities in the rented flats.
From Rishikesh they came to Dehradun in the evening. As her father-in-law had worked at this place for about 10 years as Physics Demonstrator in Indian Military Academy and as he and his wife had spent some of the memorable moments of their life so both of them were quite enthusiastic about their visit to this town . Next day we went to see museum of Indian Military Academy where we met one of her father-in-law’s student who was a Lieutenant Colonel there, he took us around the famous Chetwode Block where officers of Indian army passed out and adjoining to it was its famous museum where we saw portraits of some of the great military leaders of independent India including Field Marshal Carriappa, Field Marshal Maneckshaw and Air Force Marshal Arjun Singh. Here we also saw the pistol of the Commander of Pakistan Army Lt. Gen Niazi which was handed over as a token of surrender to Indian Commander Lt. Gen. Jagjit Singh Aurora that marked the end of Indo-Pak 1971 conflict resulting in the birth of a new nation Bangladesh. We also saw the museum of Forest Research Institute and then we went to see a natural sight  named as Sastradhara which is a waterfall whose water has curative properties for skin related ailments as it contains element of sulphur. In the evening we went to see the house and colony where her parents-in-law stayed when her father-in-law worked here. The name of this colony was Prem Nagar where at one house they met a person who was known to then and who was nicknamed as Gaddi as he was born in a railway train while his parents were migrating from Pakistan in 1947. This boy, who was now grown up middle aged man was delighted to see them after such a long period of almost 40 years. After having a cup of tea with him they returned to the inn for rest at night. Next day they went toa nearby hill station Mussorie. Though it was a journey of only 30 kms but it nearly took us one hour to undertake this journey as it was a winding mountainous road. This place is popularly known as Queen of Hills. Here we bcame victims of Taxi Association as they did not allow any outside taxi to go beyond a point. So we went on foot to see a place known as Lal Tiba from where we were shown Tibetan Boarder and Kanchenjunga peak from the binoculars by a soldier of Indian Army. While returning from this place we stayed at a local gurudwara for some time where we were served a hot cup of tea. We also passed before the residence of a famous Indo –Anglican writer Ruskin Bond who lives at this place. By night we came back to Dehradun and next day returned back but from Ambala our family took a taxi to Delhi so as to get train for Rajasthan while the family of our tenants proceeded towards Punjab.
Next year she along with her spouse and two kids went to see Chandigarh and Shimla, princess of the hills. This year tenants were too busy to accompany them and their parents were too old to get along with them . They started from Moga in afternoon and by evening they reached Chandigarh by bus. The took an accommodation in Kisan Bhawan near bus stand. Next day in the morning they went to visit several places at Chandigarh like Sukhna Lake, Rock Garden which was a unique creation by Mr. Nek Chand out of the waste material and Rose Garden. Since she had stayed at Chandigarh for almost an year while doing her PGDCA so she knew the way to several tourist spots of this place. Next day in the early morning they took bus from Chandigarh to Shimla and after a journey of five hours they reached Shimla in the afternoon where they lodged at a hotel for the night. In the evening they went to see Mall Road of Shimla. On the way they also saw a cinema hall and the office of Muincipal Council of Shimla and a theatre. They also passed before several shops on the Mall Road one such interesting shop read Tuan-Tan Shoe Shop which was run by a chinky fellow. Here she got ill and vomited and her blood pressure got low. She quickly purchased some green alomonds froma road side vendor and took it herself and gave to her children and spouse too. Next day in the morning they hired a cab to see the nearby places like Potato Research Institute at Kufri where she and her kids rode mules and took the round of this institute. Her husband could not ride it as he was allergic to horse smell. From here they went to Chail which boasts of one of  the highest air fields. There is an interesting story related to the coming up of Chail town. Before independence Shimla was summer capital of British India, Punjab and Royal State of Patiala. Once Ruler of Patiala misbehaved with the daughter of Governor General or some high official of Britishers. So Maharaja of Patiala’s entry to Shimla was banned and he had to create the town of Chail as the new summer capital of Patiala State. After that taxi driver left us at the Bus stand as we had already checked out of the hotel and got the bus to Chandigarh. But we got down at Pinjore in Haryana so as to see the famous garden belonging to Patiala State known as Pinjore Garden. In the journey her eldest son got sick due to winding and circuitous road and he was feeling nausea and vomit like feeling. He got respite when he got off from the bus and put his feet in the cool running water of the fountain of Pinjore Garden. From there we took a bus back to Moga and after visiting a few historical gurudwaras like Taran Taran, Amritsar, Sultanpur Lodhi and the famous Indo-Pak boarder at Husseinwala in Firozepur district where the memorial of Bhagat Singh, Sukhdev and Rajguru have been built as they had been cremated at this place after they were executed in Lahore Jail by the Britishers, they came back to Rajasthan.
Meanwhile her eldest son had matriculated from CBSE affiliated St. Pauls School Chittorgarh and he had made his wish clear that he has no intention of studying science as he wants to study humanities. Now the problem was that there was no school affiliated to CBSE that was English medium that offered humanities at Class XI and XII. So he took admission in an old and famous school St. Anselms School Ajmer taking the subjects of English, Sociology, Economics, Geography and Political Science. He excelled in academics and got his name in merit list in XII class as he had secured more than 90% marks in the exam. He lived for two years as a paying guest with a sikh family of Ajmer who treated him as their own child. After passing his senior secondary exams he gave a series of entrance tests of different universities for integrated course of B.A +LLB and ultimately he succeeded in getting admission in Rajiv Gandhi National Law University Patiala.   
            Next year as the schools and colleges closed for summer vacations she along with her kids and spouse to meet her parents in Punjab who had settled there after retirement from Irrigation Department of Govt. of Rajasthan. Here she decided to go on a pilgrimage with her husband, two sons and two sister-in-laws to Hemkunt Sahib. So we hired a SUV from Sujapur and started early in the morning and by evening came to Paonta Sahib in Himachal Pradesh and stayed here for the night as it was also a historical gurudwara associated with Guru Gobind Singh ji. After seeing the gurudwara and surrounding nearby temples they resumed their journey next day morning and passing through Dehradun that brought sweet memories of that place that they had visited a couple of years ago with the grandparents of her sons. As the vehicle passed before IMA and FRI the memories came alive and by evening theyr eached Rishikesh and stayed at the Gurudwara for the night where they went to see thefamous Lakshaman Jhoola connecting two parts of the city separated by holy River Ganga.. Next day early morning we left for Govind Ghat and moving on a mountaineous road along the River Alakhnanda and passing through several places like Rudra Prayag and Joshi Math by evening we reached Govind Ghat which is just 13 kms before Badrinath. Here we took lodging in a gurudwara and next day we started the holy journey to Hemkunt Sahib. Here she was realistic enough about her capacities so she hired a mule right from the beginning while her husband in over confidence decided to accompany her two sons. Though by evening he succeeded in completing 19 kms of journey by foot and they reached a place known as Jhanjharia or Govind Dham but her husband was so much tired that he had nearly given up hope of completing the pilgrimage which was journey of another 6 kms. He could baely stand so she got a room in the hotel for him and her children while she slept in gurudwara with her aunt and sister –in-law at Gurudwara    He could not ride mules as he was allergic to horse smell. But she was determined to make this pilgrimage a success so she hired a coolie who took her spouse on his shoulders for the entire journey from Govind Dham to Hemkunt Sahib and then back to Govind Dham where another coolie replaced him who brought him to Govind Ghat. Such was the determination and fastidiousness of this lady that made the pilgrimage of her spouse also successful. Next day by eveining they reached Govind Ghat though their journey from Govind Dhan to Hemkunt Sahib was not entirely free of troubles as she again fell sick at Hemkunt Sahib as her blood pressure started dipping but she got respite from the warm Prasad of Khichri that she go from Gurudwara and her spouse also fell from the shoulders of coolie and hit his forehead on a rock whose mark remained for a number of days as blessing of God. Certainly the courage, determination and stamina of these Nepalese Gurkha Coolies is simply unformidable.. Next day they started their journey back and stopping at Paonta Sahib again for the night they returned to Sujapur next day.
            Mean while her elder son had graduated from RGNUL Patiala and he had bagged a scholarship to study for his PG course in law from Torino Italy and he grabbed this opportunity and went to join this one year course. Here he was helped by the fact that after a couple of months he was joined by his class fellow who lived near his hometown at the same place though in a different institute. So they had a nice company together and it gave relief to her as now she had no worries about him. An year later he got another scholarship and went to pursue another course in Kent Law School  Canterbury U.K. Duration of this degree was also of one year.       
            At her school the situation changed drastically after her father-in-law’s colleague ceased to be Principal. She was already caught in the vicious circle of setting question papers, typing them , taking exams and evaluating answer sheets that had made her patient of spondilitis. Secondly new Principal tried to indict her with malign motive in some fake case. The incident that made her take the decision to leave her job though she was earning twenty thousand rupees a month that was not a meagre amount at that time. This incident was that one day she was at home and her father-in-law had nearly lost his sight due to Glucoma and her mother-in-law, who was lean and thin, was also getting weaker day by day. That day both of them were coming out of the room and her father-in-law stumbled and fell on the floor and her mother-in-law who was following him tried to save him but she also fell along with him. It was a good thing that that day she was at home so she came quickly and helped them in getting up. She took the decision to leave her job at once thinking that if she had not been at home today who would have helped this ageing couple as her husband is normally at college for four to six hours and there was no body to help her parents-in-law. Lastly her husband was already getting Pay Band IV with Rs. 9000/- as annual grade pay so there was not dearth of resources in the house and as her relations with school authorities were getting bitter day by day so she took a bold decision to leaver her job and devote her life in service of this old couple. This is the second time that she had shown selfless service and total devotion towards the welfare of me and my family.
Meanwhile her younger son had also matriculated from St. Pauls School Chittorgah. And as he was good at science so he easily cleared the entrance exam of Bansal Classes Kota and went to take coaching there for entrance to IIT and other leading technical education instiutions of the country. As he was brilliant so he easily cleared IIT Entrance Exam. But like his elder brother he declared that he had no intention of becoming money earning machine by becoming an engineering graduate from IIT .So he did not attend the counseling for IIT’s that was held at Mumbai. However he expressed his wish to study pure science and he applied for admission to Indian Institute of Space and Technology. He even went for the interview to Thiruvanathapuram along with his father who reached Ahmedabad by bus and from there took a train that took them to Thiruvanathapuram after a journey of 48 hrs. Though he was getting admission easily in every branch – pure science as well as aeronautics- but he refused to take admission here. So they came back after seeing the Kovalam Beach and Viekanand rock near Kanyakumari in Tamil Nadu. Then he intentionally and deliberately did not lock the options for admission to NIT’s and other leading institutes of the country. Ultimately he agreed to take admission in IISER at Mohali in pure science and that too due to his maternal grandfather who was insisted on him to study there. This upset her very much as she grew concerned about his future, she remained silent for a number of days after she grew reconciled with the destiny. However, her elder son had now moved to Paris as research scholar in Science Po institute. Then he started teaching also at this university for an year at this place and at another place in France known as La Harvey.  
Meanwhile the marriage of her husband’s niece was fixed with a family of Gahlan belonging to a village near Noida in Uttar Pradesh. The boy was Assistant manager in s railway concern known as Concor that is associated with logistics of freight transport. Her husband’s niece was an engineer with an MBA degree from Christ University Bangalore. The boy’s father worked as agricultural scientist at Palampur in Himachal Pradesh in some organization associated with CSIR and ICAR. The boy whose name was Prashant Gahlan was an engineering graduate and Business administration graduate from BITS Pilani that was the prestigious institute founded in Rajasthan during World War II. Britishers had prevailed on the leading industrialist of India Mr. G.D Birla to open an arms and ammunition factory at Pilani to help British forces during Second World War. He agreed to do so but he took promise from the British rulers that as soon as the war is over the institute should be allowed to work as institute of technical education producing engineers and technocrats for the country. By the time factor was set up the war ended the and thus this premier instiotute came into existence.
Her husband’s niece’s, who was going to be married, name was Nidhi aka Surbhi Cheema who had her schooling from a prestigious institute of the city St.Anselm’s Pink City School Jaipur. At this wedding her husband had to go a week earlier as he had some in service training program for one week at Jaipur. So he was the first to reach the site of wedding. She took her parents-in-law in their personal car by getting a driver with the help of a retired colleague Prof. C.M Koli. Wedding was held at Jaipur in a marriage Palace hired by them. Though her father-in-law had got totally blind by then but he could share the joy of attending wedding of her grand child through the eyes of his wife who was reporting every event of the wedding to him in the minutest detail . This was the last wedding function attended by her ageing and ailing parents-in-law. After the wedding they came back in their car that was driven by her spouse who brought them safely back to Chittorgarh. This wedding took place in January 2013.
In the same year that is 2013 Shivpal completed his dual degree of BS and MS Physics from IISER Mohali, Chandigarh. As it was the summer vacations time so she and her husband had gone to Punjab. Her father had a mild stroke of paralysis so she came to look after her father and stayed at Sujapur for nearly a month as a result of where there was a strong rumour, due to courtesy of domestic maid servant that she had gone to Italy to look after her elder son who was studying there at that time. Her husband joined her after a month and then they hired a cab to attend graduation ceremony of Shivpal  at Chandigarh and then from there they proceeded to Palampur taking shivpal with them. On the way they saw Anandpur Sahib and famous Sikh museum at that place. From there passing through Nangal Una and then before the Temple of Goddess Chintpurni and Kangra they reached Palampur by evening where they were received by Nidhi’s parents-in-law and her sister-in-law. Next day Nidhi’s father-in-law took them to a near by temple of  Jakhmi Mata in his own car. Then he sent his daughter with us who took us to Dharamshala and Mcleodgang. Here they saw Tibetan Parliament from where the Tibetan government in exile of Dalai Lama functioned. At Mcleodganj  they saw the Church of the Whispering Woods that had a grave of A Governor General of India and a number of other graves and a large bell. Besides they also saw tow Buddhist temples where offerings were of biscuits, cakes and candies. They also went up to see Bhakasur Temple who was a demon. By evening they returned to Palampur and next day theywent to visit Baijanath where Ravana, mighty ruler of Sri Lanka meditated to get powers from Lord Shiva. After that returned back to Punjab and then to Rajsthan.
Another pleasant development that took place was that Prashant was transferred from Agra to Kota as a result of which she could come easily to Chittorgarh as it was nearly 180 kms away from Chittorgarh. Nidhi got pregnant in 2014 and in the month of August after a brief visit to Chittorgarh she went to live with her parents at Jaipur. When the news from Jaipur came in the month of October that she was being admitted to hospital due to labour pain, Baljeet was sent at once from Chittor to help them in the birth of child. Nidhi gave birth to a girl child who was named as Anvi alias Oudvika Gahlan. Baljeet’s mother-in –law was very much overjoyed at getting this news. Similalry her father-in-law also wanted to feel his great grand child though he could not see. Child came into this world on October 31st , 2014. Meanwhile Baljeet’s elder brother’s son, who was working in USA, was fixed to be held in the third week of December with a girl belonging to Patiala. So she had to go to attend this wedding along with her spouse and two sons. The problem was to take care of her parents-in-law. Nidhi offered to come to Chittorgarh along with new born infant so that her great grand parents could also play with her. Nidhi wanted to show her gratitude to Baljeet who had helped her by at her bed side during the birth of a child. Though her husband had also arranged for a servant who would sleep at their during the night. The same day she and her family left for Punjab to attend the wedding of her elder brother’s son. Just a week before wedding her father got a hear attack and he was admitted to a leading nursing home of Ludhiana. So they went to see him at the hospital at Ludhiana before coming to the village to attend wedding ceremony. Even her father did not want to disturb the wedding of his grandson so he gave instruction that he died before the wedding was over his body can be kept in a freezer of a neighbouring village as his funeral can wait till the wedding is over. But nothing of that sort happened and wedding ceremonies passed off peacefully in the environment of glee, joy and cheerfulness.
            After attending the wedding they came back from Punjab on 23th December, 2014. next day was the Annual Reunion of Sainik School Alumni Meet. Her husband was busy in the function while he rmother-in-law was busy in looking after the infant girl child. During the meet old students of her father-in-law used to visit them. This year also they visited and her mother-in-law had served them cup of coffee too. On 25th December was the birthday of her elder son Ishupal who had by chance came from France that year where he was pursuing his Ph.D in law. It was a coincidence that newly wed couple had also joined them for the birthday celebration. Her mother-in-law had a long chat with the new bride who also happened to belong to the same clan that is Gill as her clan. .After playing with the young child her remark was ‘everything seems to be proper with this world ‘. An hour after she started trembling and went to take rest. Her daughter gave her some medicine as she was averse to going to hospital though she remarked to her son that day “ Show me to anybody you like, otherwise I may embark”. Due to medicine her fever came down but she could get only a fitful sleep during the night. In the morning her spouse contacted nearby nursing home who sent its technician to take blood sample. Within a couple of hours report came and doctor diagnosed her with Phalsoporium( A type of malaria that gobbles RBC) and her Haemoglobin count was very low. Doctor advised her to shift to the hospital at once as there may be need of blood transfusion. So she, her husband and her younger son took Hardyal to the hospital in the car. Shivpal literally took up in his arms and transferred her to the car. At hospital her spouse decided to take cottage ward in the hospital. When they started from home to hospital she was mumbling something about Nidhi, her granddaughter who had gone to Kota only in the morning. Her husband went to take medicine prescribed by the doctor while her younger son took up again his grandfather in his arms and took her to the cottage ward as it was lunch time in the hospital and there was no stretcher in sight.  When Shivpal placed her on the bed she took three deep breath and then became still. Soon doctor also came but by that time she was beyond him and he could not do anything except declaring her dead. Though Shivpal took grabbed medicine from his father and rushed towards the cottage but by that her soul had left this planet.     
It was a difficult time for the family this family had not experienced death since 1976 and most difficult part of it was to break this news to her ailing blind husband who thought that she was being treated in the hospital while her copse was lying in the other room of the house. He was informed about her death, by his son-in-law only a couple of hours before she was taken to cremation ground for the funeral. As she was departing from the house his words were “ I was to go before you, how come that your are going before me”. After the funeral all the children of the house Shivpal, Ishupal, and Anshu tried hard to keep their grandfather amused and engaged. Seven days later at he bhog ceremony friends and relatives came from Punjab also and this bereaved old man got respite by meeting son of his only sister who had come from Punjab and the lone son of his brother-in-law from the village where he went to marry her nearly six decades ago.
            Hardly the house had recovered from this shock when she got the news of tragic death of her father who had a heart attack and was recovering well after the surgery. He had not been told about the death of her mother-in-law. She could not leave her ailing blind father-in-law and go to attend the funeral of her own father, who was perhaps one of the most dear person to her in the world. She sent her younger son Shivpal to attend the funeral. That ws the height of sacrifice and devotion that she had exhibited for our family. It is indeed a grand salute to Shivpal and his mother who through their selfless and devoted service served these old ailing senior members of our family and made their lives comfortable in their last phase of life .
            After the death of his wife her father-in-law was completely broken as due to his failing eye sight he had grown totally dependent on his wife. His younger grandson Shivpal used to look after him completely. He used to wash and clean him, change his diapers and even gave him shave and hair dressing with his Phillips trimmer. Once he had even designed French cut beard on his face. One day her father-in-law went into delirium and was uttering meaningless and absurd things. Doctor came in the house and diagnosed that his strange behaviour was due to decline of sodium level and for that he will have to be admitted to some hospital and he assured that he will be able look after well if he is admitted to the hospital in which he was giving his services. So we admitted him at once to that hospital which was a private hospital owned by a trust. Her he raised such a hue and cry that it became a challenge for the hospital staff to control him and in finding the nerve in his body when they had to give drip to him. Most of the time they even put medicine into the drip. After one week’s treatment his behaviour and sodium level became normal and he was discharged from the hospital and he came back home. As the April ended he celebrated his birthday on may 1st in the company of both of his grand sons as Ishupal had also come from France that year. Shivpal took him for a ride on his wheel chair and he even cut his birthday cake that was the last birthday cake of his life and he was so pleased that his words were “If you will give so much pleasure only god knows how will I leave this world”. Next day Ishupal left for France and as it was the time of summer vacations so she and her spouse decided to go on their annual visit to Punjab. And they called her sister-in-law and her younger daughter Anshu who had become a dentist to look after him during their absence and Shiv pal was already there to help them. So she left for Punjab the next day after a couple of days her sister-in-law gave the news that he was suffering from diarrhoea and was unable to digest anything though Shiv pal was not much worried as such situation  had arisen in the past too. After a week they boarded the train back from Punjab though the train was late by four hours and by the time it reached Chanderiya it was seven to eight hours late. So by the time they reached home it was already three o’clock in the afternoon. He was very much delighted by our arrival and know about the well being of his near and dear ones at Punjab. At the tea in the evening looking towards his son he said “ You have come well in time”. When her husband told him that we were late by seven to eight hours and reached in afternoon instead of morning his words still were “ No still you have reached in time”. We failed to comprehend his words. Next day her sister-in-law and her younger daughter Anshu was to go back to Jaipur  In the morning they went to see them off at the railway station and came to know that due to some derailment train was late by three hours. So they came back and returned back to station and saw them off at the station.

            In the evening she prepared tea for everybody. While they were sipping tea phone came that her sister-in-law and her younger daughter had reached safely at Jaipur and this news was given to her father-in-law. He heaved a sigh of relief at getting this news. Meanwhile she took the cups of the tea into the kitchen , her husband observed that he was moving his hands in the air as if some person is struggling to save himself from drowning. He raised his head from the pillow while moving his hands in the air a couple of times and then his head fell back on the pillow and he became still. Her husband rushed at once to bring doctor from a nearby clinic in his car who came at once and declared him dead. Incidentally the doctor who had declared him dead was also one of his favourite student.

The Lady Who Stole My Heart & Soul Part-II

 Part-II
Though Surjeet Singh joined the job at Mavli in Udapur district but soon he was transferred to Banswara, which was a tribal district where Mina bhils inhabited. At this place he was to do the survey of an ambitious joint project of Government of Rajasthan and Gujarat named Mahi-Bajaj Sagar Multipurpose Project which was to be used for irrigating lands as well as generating electricity. This place was such a God forsaken backward place where people feared to go even in broad day light. The site of project was a few kilometers away from the town so Surjeet Singh shifted his family in the rented two room accommodation belonging to political activist S.Shamsher Singh Tiwana who was also a contractor of Irrigation Department. As he was also involved in the project of Irrigation Department so both Surjeet Singh and Shamsher Singh used to go to site on their bicycles from the main town. As it was a tribal district so Christian missionaries had opened school , hospital and other institutions of social service with a view to win tribals to Christianity. So even at that time in a sleepy town like Banswara there was an English medium school run by Christian Missionaries from where the journey of education of our protagonist began. Not only her but her two elder brothers also started their education from this school- Mission School Banswara that was situated in Nayi Abadi or New Colony where Surjeet Singh lived with her family. That is school was not far off from their residence. She remembers clearly that whenever any child cried in the school teacher gave him or her a glazed colourful shining picture of Jesus or Mother Mary. So that child was absorbed in watching the image and he stopped crying. She also remembers that while she used to come back from the school along with her brothers they used to pass before a building that was used as mental asylum and jail. So out of curiosity they used to peer at the inmates through the bars of the windows. She along with her brothers was being well looked after by her mother as her father was too busy in his work. Even in those days her mother could bake bread, cakes and cookies for them fresh at home and desserts like Porridge and Custard Pudding. She even used to make ice cream in the manual machine besides making other traditional desserts like Rice Pudding and Halwa. She studied in this school up to fourth standard. In the year 1970 or 1971 her father was transferred to Matri Kundia Dam in chittorgarh district but he shifted his family to a nearby town of Bhilwara. They took up their residence in a rented accommodation in Sindhu Nagar in the town of Bhilwara.    
            Even at that tender age she showed her spirit of independence and spirit of taste and finesse when she refused to go to Government School Gul Mandi Bhilwara when she saw squalid and unhygienic conditions in the classrooms. So respecting her sentiments she was withdrawn from that school on the request of the parents and she only relented when she was admitted to a private school even though it was only a Hindi medium school managed by Mahaveer Society of Bhilwara. As this school was situated on Rajendra Marg so it was comparatively nearer to her home than the Gul Mandi School. She studied here upto 6th standard. By that time she her father got accommodation in the colony at Matri Kundia near Rashmi. So she was again shifted from Mahaveer School to Government School Rashmi. This is the tragedy with the children of government servants who have to shift schools frequently in accordance with the place of job of their parents.So by the time they adjust with the teachers and environment of the school they are shifted to some other school at some another strange place where they have to begin anew. As this school was situated 3 kms from their residence so she along with her two brothers used to go on bicycles. One day her eldest brother saw a puppy on the road while coming from the school and it was too tempting to be left on the road so he took out his books and notebooks from the bag and gave it to his sister and put puppy in his bag and brought him home.
            As her father also belonged to a family of farmers so he had a sympathy for the villagers of this area and he contributed immensely to the development of the area. He even saved a couple of villages from coming in the catchment area of the dam as he gave this plea to the government through the farmers that raising the height of the dam would prove to be cheaper to the government than giving compensation to the farmers for their land and then relocating them to some other place. After an year or so her father gave attention to the fact that the education of his children, particularly of his two sons is suffering due to his rural posting so he decided to shift his family to Bhilwara again and he took two room accommodation in the residence of Mr. Balram Dhiman, who was a contractor in Irrigation Department and who belonged to Himachal Pradesh. Earlier both Surjeet Singh and Mr. Balram had been tenants in the house that was situated at Sindhu Nagar. While Surjeet Singh came back from Rashmi Mr. Balram had completed the construction of his house in the Main Sector of Shastri nagar that was just behind the SMM Govt. Girls School and Girls College. In this house on the ground floor lived the family of the landlord while on the first floor Mr. Surjeet Singh’s family lived consisting of a wife and three children- two sons and a daughter.
            Meanwhile she completed her middle education and came to Ninth Standard and was admitted to SMM Govt. Girls School Bhilwara. She had opted for science stream medical side that is Biology though she was more interested in studying Maths but at that time there was only one school in the town that offered engineering stream or the subjects of Physics, Chemistry and Maths and that school was in Pratap Nagar that was nearly four kilometers from their residence and in those days it was considered as stupid to send a girl to such a long distance daily just for a sake of a subject. So she had to be contented by studying Biology in the name of Science stream at Higher Secondary that she completed in year 1979. Though her performance appeared average but seeing the lack of proper guidance and unacademic environment of her house and seeing to the fact that she had to assist her mother also in household chores even her average performance at this level was quite laudable. During her higher education she represented her school in District Level Science Exhibition at Gulabpura one year and at Shahpura at the district level. She also represented her school at Vijaynagar in  Ajmer district.
            After completing her Higher Secondary from Board of Secondary Education Ajmer Rajasthan in the year with the subjects Physics, Chemistry and Biology she took admission in MLV Govt. College Bhilwara, which was a predominantly boys college but she took admission in it as she wanted to pursue graduation studies in Science faculty. But due to lack of regularity of classes in the college and lack of guidance and academic environment in her house as she was mainly dependent on classroom teaching whereas at the college level it is expected that a student gets mature enough to continue preparations for the exam on his or her own and not be dependent on classroom teaching only, as a result of this casual attitude she could not clear theory exams though she got fairly good marks in practicals that even her teacher could not believe that she had failed to clear the exams. After this set back she took admission in SMM Govt. Girls College Bhilwara but in Arts faculty with subjects Economics, Sociology and Political Science. At that time Principal of this college was Mrs. Sarla Wadhera who was so much devoted to her profession that she remembered the names of all students of the college as she personally knew each student and tried to contact their parents also personally. Meanwhile her elder brother Sukhpal Singh got married and brought his wife who belonged to the village Sarabha the village of great revolutionary and free fighter S. Kartar Singh Sarabha’s village. The newly wed couple also started living with them in the rented accommodation that they took in the main sector of Shastri nagar Bhilwara. After an year or so a daughter was also born to them who was named as Manjeet and thus Baljeet became a Bhua.  She completed her graduation from this college in the year 1983 and in the same year she took decision to pursue post graduation studies in Economics so she took admission again in MLV Govt. College Bhilwara and she completed her M.A in Economics in the year 1985 with a fairly good second division marks. About these days she remembers many of her teachers fondly like Dr. P.R. Gaggar, Qazi sahib or Moiunuddin Sir and she also rremembers her class fellow named Rama who lived near her residence and with whom she used to exchange notes regularly. She also thought of filling form for teaching job in colleges and she even procured a form for that. But meanwhile she got interested in Computer Education and prevailed over her parents to allow her to take admission in a reputed private institution of Chandigarh in the course Post Graduate Diploma in Computer Applications. So she went to Chandigarh and rented a share accommodation of a Professor of Punjab University named Mr. Bahl. Her room partner was a lady from Odisha whose husband was professor in agriculture in Srinagar University in J & K . From Chandigarh she used to visit her grandparents every weekend which was four hours run from Chandigarh. In those days due to terrorism Punjab was politically unstable so if she got late she used to get down at the village of her maternal grandparents at Chauki Mann and after spending the night here in the morning she used to go to her village Sujapur which was hardly four kilometers from this place. On Monday morning she used to return back to Chandigarh to pursue her studies. She stayed at Chandigarh for over an year during which sometimes her mother used to come to stay with her she also remembers that at one time her sister-in-law that is Sukhpal’s wife also came to visit her along with her daughter and she took them on a Bajaj Super Scooter on a ride on the roads of Chandigarh and went to see Sukhna Lake.
            During this period two developments took place one was that they had bought a plot of land  in B Sector of Shastrii Nagar Bhilwara and started constructing house on it as their family was increasing and her younger brother Satinder Pal, who had joined his hands with his elder brother in transport business man had also to be married. Recollecting the wedding of her younger brother Satinder pal she clearly remembers how she along with her brother came all the way from Chandigarh by bus to attend the reception of his marriage at Bhilwara. Naturally it was quite dark when they reached Bhilwara and by the time reached the place the reception ceremony had already begun and people, other guests and bride were waiting eagerly for the groom.
            After completing her computer course she was so much fed up of studies that she decided to give a break and to do nothing except taking rest She decided neither to study further nor to seek any job. Perhaps this was her gravest mistake of her life as most of her class fellows who had completed computer courses with her ended up with high salary jobs abroad in companies like MicroSoft, Apple, IBM Computers and Indian firms like Infosys, Wipro and Telco. But as she says that the condition of girls was so much dependent on the male member of family that even if she had got opportunity to work they would not have allowed her to pursue her studies further or to go to work at some strange place even in India, let alone abroad. Now as she was sitting idle in the house so topmost priority in the mind of her parents was to marry her off and settle her in life. So they quickened their efforts at finding some suitable match for her. One day her father’s old friend came from Udaipur, whose name was S. Karam Singh Deol and who had worked as a contractor under her father in Irrigation Department of Government of Rajasthan. He brought with him a letter of a proposal for her from a family living in their neighboring district and town of Chittorgarh. It had never occurred to her parents even in their remote dreams that some family belonging to their community would be living so near and that too they were educated, enlightened and belonging to service sector. Boy’s father had retired from Sainik School Chittorgarh as a Physics teacher and was managing his own coaching centre at that time. Mother though  was a house lady but she was also equally educated and boy was working as Assistant Professor in English at Government College Karauli at that time. Without wasting any time her parents approached at the given address and though they could not meet the boy as he was at his job but they met his parents and were glad to find that in Punjab too they belonged to neighbouring districts of Ludhiana and Moga in the same way as they were residing in Rajasthan in the neighboring districts of Bhilwara and Chittorgarh. 
            After a month or so the colleges in the state closed in Rajasthan so her father this time came along with his brother-in-law who belonged to a village Natuwala Jadid which was neighbouring village Parao Mehna that was the birth place of this boy. They were able to meet the boy this time and approved him but before that boy’s parents wanted to see the girl and get the approval of boy’s sister and brother-in-law who lived in Jaipur. In the month of June as they would be coming to Chittorgarh to celebrate their birthday that fell on 6th June so it was decided that the family would visit Bhilwara and see the girl and also have their lunch at their place even if the girl was not approved. Meanwhile she shifted to their newly constructed house in the B-Sector of Shastri Nagar Bhilwara. Another development that took place before the finalization of her wedding was the news of the birth of a male child to her brother Satender Pal Singh at the village Bermi in Punjab. Mother came with infant child to the newly constructed house. On the occasion of shifting to their new house they had celebrated its inauguration by inviting almost every friend and relative from Punjab as this was the first major function that they were celebrating here in Rajasthan.
            So on appointed day that is 7th June boy’s family along with him and his sister and brother-in-law came to Bhilwara in a hired white Ambassador Cab. At the time they reached Bhilwara she was busy in cleaning the floors of the house and while the guests wee having the tea and snacks in the drawing room she went for a shower and after the tea was over she had just emerged fresh from the bathroom after taking the bath and the boy was ushered in the room to have a chat with her. The boy had not imagined even in the remotest of his dreams that the girl would be so simply clad for this occasion. He was taking her to be some their relative and looked towards the door of the adjoining room in the hope that she would emerge from there fully decked and decorated. He was taken aback when he came to know that this simply clad girl was the person whom they had come to see. So he got nervous and unable to speak for some time. But encouraged by her mother he talked about studies in a casual manner and was comfortable when during the conversation he came to know that they had common classfellows who had studied with him in Government College Chittorgarh in undergraduate classes and then studied with her by taking admission to PG classes in Economics at Govt. College Bhilwara. So the girl was approved instantly and every body greeted each other with another round of sweets followed by an equally delicious and sumptuous lunch that had become more delightful at the happy conclusion of the meeting by exchanging the ring. In this meeting it was decided that wedding would take place on 18 th October 1987 and a day before that is on 17th October the engagement ceremony would be performed at Chittorgarh. Though she was not sure about the boy but she was contented that she was going to an educated family in which both her father-in-law and mother-in-law were post graduates in her favourite subject Mathematics and then her subject of PG Economics was also allied at some point to mathematics.

            On that particular day that is 17th October 1987 her father came along with his friends and relatives to groom’s house at Chittorgarh and performed the engagement ceremony by giving a gold ring and a bangle( Kara) in the presence of Holy Guru Granth Sahib ji. Next day barat went to Bhilwara in a chartered bus while the groom, his sister and his mother were in a hired cab. Barat was received at Community Centre Shastri Nagar and after the tea and snacks Barat went for Anand Karaj ceremony- marriage ceremony according to Sikh tradition- at the bride’s home. At the gate of her house there was a podium on which Groom and Bride were to exchange the garlands. Here occurred a funny incident. Though the bride was almost of the same height as Groom but that day she was wearing high heel shoes and Groom was holding a Kirpan( Sword) in his hand. Bride put the garland in Groom’s neck effortlessly but when the turn of groom came he looked around for help but nobody seemed to be attentive to him so he put the sword under his arm and then with both his hands he took the garland and took as much high as he could to put it around the bride’s neck but he could not take his hand beyond particular height as he did not want to drop the sword on the ground from this armpit. So he released garland from there though it came around her neck but his garland entangled with bride’s garland that caused a funny situation causing fun and laughter among the audience. But girl came to know from that incident that boy was somewhat clumsy in handling the things. Anand karaj ceremony was held on the roof of her house in the presence of Guru Granth Sahib ji that was placed in a pandal before which bride and groom sat followed by their friends, relatives, family members and guests. After this ceremony Groom was brought to be introduced to the lady members of her family. Her family was so large and such a crowd of women of all age group that it was difficult to make out who was her relative or who was the local her friend or a local guest. After this ceremony lunch was read so marched towards the venue of lunch that was Community Centre of Shasti Nagar. At the lunch another incident happened and that was that they were to share their food. Both bride and groom were holding the plate of lunch and groom thinking that he should put sweet thing first of all in her mouth. He took a spoonful of Halwa and without seeing whether it was hot or not put it into her mouth which made her uncomfortable for some time. After the tea She was sent off in an emotional send off ceremony by her family members including her grandfather and she embarked on another phase of journey of her life to Chittorgarh in a hired white Ambassador car.